By Gina Bianca
Never have these words of warning been as important as they are in the world of today. We are constantly bombarded with infomercials touting the latest rip-off product that will save you time, money, and even your life, if necessary. And of course, some people will fall head first for it; otherwise these televised flyers would cease to exist.
And what about the barrage of spam we receive in our designated spam folders from various royal members wanting to use our bank accounts to make us just as “wealthy” as they are by simply cashing a princely check? And as you guessed, some also succumb to this scam as well.
No matter how hard we try to block out deceptive people in our lives whether it’s by the internet or a close family friend; the fraudulent will still find its way to you.
I know that some in our lives find it absolutely unbelievable and/or weird that women with disabilities are interested in dating and maintaining intimate relationships. And because THEY have fallen for this phony nonsense, they try to trick the disabled community into believing the same. And sadly, quite a few of us accept those notions as well.
About six months ago, I received an email from a lady living in the Caribbean, we’ll call her Trisha. She contracted polio at the age of two and felt that her disability prevented her from being active with the other kids as a child and now with men as an adult.
She said that people in her country were really closed minded and that her father didn’t think she would really amount to much in life since she was disabled and “couldn’t” have a family of her own.
I first asked her what’s the population in her country and how she could determine that out of millions of men, not one would have an interest in her? And did she not want a family or was she incapable of having a family because of health reasons? Trisha responded, “No, I just have problems walking. Not conceiving. I would love to have a family but my father has always told me that it was not possible for me”.
Trisha’s father had instilled this falsity in her mind at a very early age. And she had bought into this tale of deceit until her mid twenties. My consulting with Trisha is ongoing but I am happy to report (with Trisha’s permission) that she no longer defines herself by her father’s corrupt assumptions. She is now regularly dating and putting herself out there to meet guys so that she can form her own beliefs about who she is and what she can do in her life.
Ladies, if you’re hearing voices in your head from people in your surroundings telling you that he doesn’t want you, you’re not sexy or that courtships are not in the cards for you then just simply change the station and listen to a different song.
You don’t have to be fooled into thinking that your dreams of romance cannot be realized! If you want a loving relationship then you are like Trisha is…more than capable of having one.
Women with disabilities will not be held responsible for what society has been conned into thinking about dating and disability but we are accountable for our own views and you have to know that you’re an amazing woman with a desire to date and that there is a wonderful guy out there waiting just for you so that he too can share in your amazingness.
We cannot change our societies mind set overnight but do not let society change yours either. So before you think about buying into anything that says you are less than able to fall in love with an incredible Dream Guy. Picture a white sign with neon pink lettering stating: BUYER BEWARE!
